After months of prayer and study, my wife and I have reached a different conclusion on an issue that is big in some circles. After reflecting on the issue, I’m amazed that it is so big. The issue is whether a Christian lady must only wear skirts or not. The issue of clothing is, of course, broader than that, but the explosive issue is skirts versus pants. (To my readers who wonder what in the world I am talking about, this issue is big in the Independent Baptist world as well as some other Christian groups. While you read my disagreeing with some in this blog post just remember that I am disagreeing with friends and not fighting enemies.)
Our position now can be stated in 2 simple points:
1. The Bible demands modesty.
We have always believed this to be true. We believe that we have lost focus on this subject by taking ourselves away from the issue and reorienting on clothing styles. The idea is that a style of an article of clothing defines modesty more than the covering itself. For example, a skirt could be more immodest than a pair of pants by being too short, or even if longer, by carelessly sitting, etc. We maintain that the issue is not showing the private areas of the body. Despite what has been preached and taught, any honest, godly man can tell you that the issue is not along a simple divide of pants versus skirts, but along the divide of revealing versus not revealing. There are women in skirts that a godly man must quickly turn while his eyes away from while there are very attractive women in pants that he doesn’t have to turn his eyes away from. The issue isn’t pants versus skirts but modesty versus immodesty. One incites lust of men who want to do right and the other does not.
2. The Bible does not teach that pants would be wrong on a woman.
There is no Bible passage that states this idea. There are places where some wonderful people believe an inference is made and I will discuss these items later. Still, there simply is no passage that expressly teaches it.
There are many arguments given and many feel they can conclude “no pants” from principles of the Bible. I’d like to carefully discuss some of the most common ones, ones that I have thought deeply about as I tried to determine exactly what the Lord was really asking of us.
1. This violates the Biblical prohibition of cross dressing.
Deuteronomy 22:5 is always given as the key verse that would prohibit a woman from wearing pants because it would be man’s apparel. Whatever that verse means, it couldn’t really mean what it is often said to mean here. In fact, those sincere people who use the verse this way forget that they might wear the same t-shirt or socks as their spouse. Logically, you can’t pick and choose if the verse means what some say. I would think that would refer to what is obviously for one sex. I’d worry about the man who wore a pink, frilly shirt! Some would argue that pants are that distinctly male, but most would disagree with you.
Have you ever looked carefully at pictures of clothing from Bible times in any Bible dictionary or encyclopedia? Look at this picture:
Do you notice anything? Just how different is the clothing for male and female? Many cite Aaron’s “breeches”, but they were under his robe-like garment and weren’t that noticeable. At least you would have to admit that the difference between male and female dress in Bible times is not as large as the difference between pants and skirts now? Skirts are fine, but can they be demanded when the difference required is greater than that when the cited Scripture was given? The verse likely refers to battle apparel, but in any event, it can’t be pushed farther than the context allows.
2. Pants are a giving in to modern culture.
It is true that 70 years ago all women wore skirts only. It is also true that our culture changed. Perhaps it would be fair to say that those who first changed were making a statement that ladies today are not necessarily making. It was not culturally acceptable then. What I am afraid we fail to see is that culture is the last line of consideration for the Christian after the issue of covering our nakedness is addressed. For example, walk up and tell some burly Scottish guy in his kilt that he looks feminine or girly and as you pick yourself back up off the ground, you will probably realize he was all man and a cultural issue was involved.
Why won’t you wear the outfit of the people in the above picture from Bible times to church, or even Wal-mart? Because you know that people would roll their eyes at you. In other words, it isn’t socially acceptable. And if some measure of changing with culture within the confines of modesty is wrong, how are the church dresses of today acceptable? They don’t look like those worn in the 1800s. Dresses went to the floor then and the sight of even the ankle was a scandal. (My Alicia says we are a long way from Adam and Eve’s furs too). Alicia and I were talking with some good friends of ours one day and wondered how the 1950s became the standard for all time. That more or less is the look of most who hold the stricter position today. It is an attractive look, but can it honestly be said to be the God-given standard for today? I don’t feel there is any way I could honestly hold that position.
It is true that there are things acceptable in our culture today that are unacceptable to the Christian. But we dodge that error by our first line of defense: modesty. Modesty means I particularly cover the private or sexual parts of my body so as not to enflame others with lust. It means drawing the wrong kind of attention. To put it simply, there are 2 factors that determine what we wear: 1) modesty, and 2) culture.
3. To start wearing pants is a move to the left and therefore wrong.
There is no Scripture on it being a sin to move to the left. Actually, the only thing the Bible teaches is that you adjust to the Biblical position no matter if you need to go right or left to do it. That really is an argument for appearances. What we are all called to do is figure out what the Lord is saying to the best of our ability and adjust accordingly.
4. Ladies should not wear pants in order to take the highest road.
It is an assumption to say it is the highest road. Is it a higher road to wear a button-up shirt over a polo shirt? Is it a higher road to have a land line instead of a cell phone? How do you know that is true? In any event, I so support anyone who feels they need to not wear pants for the Lord. But in fairness, let’s support those who do not feel that way equally. If there are no clear Biblical guidelines then it must be along the lines of Romans 14:6 (“He that regardeth the day, regardeth it unto the Lord; and he that regardeth not the day, to the Lord he doth not regard it. He that eateth, eateth to the Lord, for he giveth God thanks; and he that eateth not, to the Lord he eateth not, and giveth God thanks.”)
A Plea For Consistency
Is pants- versus- skirts the big issue in the Biblical idea of modesty? Do we do the issue justice to reduce it to one area? Men, do you turn your head from every woman in pants? Or just from those who are flaunting their bodies? That really proves the point, doesn’t it?
Are pants worldly and a leaving of “the old paths”? Why do we pick this one modern development? Didn’t some think the same thing at other times about automobiles, or makeup, or jewelry, or cell phones, or electricity? Can’t you imagine some Christian years ago lamenting the shameful worldliness of bringing indoor plumbing into your home? Why would someone else get the privilege of picking and choosing such things for me?
Do you really believe that pants are a form of homosexual cross-dressing? Really? For every woman you know who wears pants? Are there not some women you admire as Christians who wear pants? Does, then, a lesbian putting on a skirt make her straight? Doesn’t this show how far adrift we are in our thinking? Cross-dressing? Where’s the outrage for issues the Bible takes care to often discuss on the level of what we see here? Is pride or anger a lesser issue than pants when you read the entire Bible? Then why are these issues not getting at least equal publicity with the pants issue?
Is the entire issue of avoiding lust on women’s shoulders? (My Alicia feels strongly here). Does the man, who is truly a visual creature, not have some of the responsibility? If a lady wears something she shouldn’t, is he off the hook for wherever his mind goes? Let’s get real—does every pair of pants give men problems? If it does, could maybe he have a problem? Can a man not lust after a woman in a skirt? Even if a woman is immodestly dressed, is a man still not 100% responsible before God to keep his thoughts pure? On the other hand, does this not mean that there could be something called modest pants?
Finally, isn’t it true that there is no “thou shalt not wear pants” command? Isn’t it true that the Scriptures used are not as clear as some say? Isn’t it true that many of the arguments used are not Biblical, but are philosophical at best? Isn’t it true that where the Bible doesn’t clearly speak it is each Christian’s responsibility to seek the Lord? Do we, then, have a right to be upset if a brother or sister in Christ doesn’t arrive at our same conclusion?
Speaking for me and my family, these things settle it for us.
Why Am I Making A Point To Discuss This Hot Issue
I assure you I am not into controversy for controversy’s sake. I have no ax to grind. I am not on a crusade at all. Life situations opened the door to these questions for Alicia and I. Alicia’s paralysis means she gets cold to the point of being sick very easily. Frankly, I am not going to ask here her to suffer unless I am sure our Lord asks for it. Many have implied that it is OK for Alicia in her situation, but it is still binding on everyone else. I appreciate compassion for her, but neither of us can claim a special dispensation from the Lord. Alicia says if it is a sin to wear pants it is still a sin to wear them in a wheelchair just as it is to commit murder in a chair. It logically has to boil down to right or wrong. Plus, I have daughters. Can I say Mama may wear pants, but you may not? Remember, it is inconsistencies that are making many of our children run out the door when they become adults anyway. It must be a matter of right and wrong and honestly before the Lord I just can’t see it is wrong.
So here are the reasons I felt I should publically address this issue:
1. Alicia has worn only skirts until the last year or so.
She is well known for this to family, classmates, and many friends. Because this is such a big issue, we realize some we love might have honest questions about it. It is truly a change. Our love for the Lord is as strong as ever. All we care about is serving Him. We don’t want you think that we are turning from the Lord, or that the paralysis got to us. We prayed and studied the Bible and have full peace on the matter.
2. To avoid hypocrisy.
To let you think one thing and live another is not what the Christian life is about. We occasionally minister in other churches where this issue is extremely important to them. We would feel comfortable either way, but realize some would not.
3. To be real.
We don’t feel we have anything that we need to defend. We certainly don’t feel the need to hide. We will honor others, of course, at their home, but we see no reason to be ashamed and are not going to act that way. If we choose to share a picture on facebook, it is our facebook pages. It’s not shared to offend; no, it is just who we are. What you see with us is what you get.
4. To protect others.
Alicia has close family who we love dearly that still strongly holds to a skirts-only position. We do not want our position to reflect on them in any way.
5. So I can personally take responsibility for this change.
Although Alicia and I are in full agreement, we did not proceed until I became convinced. We really worked through this carefully together. She so wanted to honor the Lord as did I, and we came to this together. Still, I want all criticism and rebuke sent to me. My sweetheart has enough to deal with, and she would not wear a pair of pants without my blessing. So this is my baby. Please treat it that way.
What This Means For The Reagan Family
Again, we want to be open with those we love and show how we came to believe what we believe. I really feel that women in the Independent Baptist world really fall into three categories:
1. Those who have a personal conviction to not wear pants.
To those in this category, we love and respect you. No one should back away from what he or she believes to be true—that is the beauty of soul liberty. We will never treat you any differently or look down on you. We are firm believers in every person following the Lord’s leading personally. Let us all do this very thing.
2. Those who hold no such conviction and feel free to wear pants.
That is where we are. We would appreciate you allowing us the same grace to follow the Lord.
3. Those who only wear skirts but do not personally have a conviction.
It’s sad these ladies must make choices because of pressure. They just don’t want to infuriate their pastor or their family and are living by others’ choices now. In some cases, they do it for a husband who just doesn’t want the family criticized. You may do as you wish, but I will not do this to my wife and daughters. I love them more than those who would get so easily angered.
In any event, dear friends and family you now know where we stand. We know the risk we are taking. We know how we Independent Baptists are so quick to “separate.” We know how quickly a person can be written off completely. As for the Reagan’s, our love is unchanged for any who read this. Our struggles of the last few years have not driven us away from the Lord, but closer to Him. Because of that, however, we can’t live our lives for what others might think now. It’s all about Him now. This is a personal life issue for us. I have never made this an issue in my ministry and have no ministry changes I must make.I have never preached on this issue, so this is just a family issue. By the way, the idea of not causing others to be offended can be taken too far—I believe no one would feel compelled to sell their Toyota because someone was offended it was foreign made. We will honor when we go to others’ homes, but we will live our lives without hypocrisy. Now to share that pretty picture of my Alicia on Facebook when I want to!
Since writing this article, I have started a series called Independent Baptist Truth Revolution. Find all posts here.